8 Steps On Your Road To Greatness
Step 1) Gratitude
Every morning, no matter how bad things seem, before your feet hit the floor say three things you are grateful for. Each day it should be three different things other than – I’m grateful to be alive, have clothes, a place to sleep. There are always people who have it worse than you. Take the people who were recently involved in the massacre in Las Vegas. They have it worse than you. The people who are enduring the aftermath of the recent hurricanes in Florida, Puerto Rico and the Caribbean have it worse than you.
**For the record, if you, or your loved ones, have been involved in any of the recent events mentioned, prayers go out to you and your family.
Whether it is something big or small gratitude helps you appreciate all things.
Step 2) No Excuses
Take 100% Responsibility for your actions, your choices. It’s easy to blame everybody for what’s going wrong in your life. You might be saying to yourself – “But Jillian you just don’t understand….”
- My dad’s in prison.
- My mom’s on drugs.
- I had a baby at 16.
- I live in a homeless shelter.
- I was raped.
- My family’s getting evicted.
- I’m getting divorced.
- I lost my job.
- I’m a single parent.
- My husband or wife beats me.
Life is hard, but to make excuses makes you a victim and will keep you from obtaining success and greatness. When you want to make changes in your life, especially when you are dealing with difficult situations, there are no quick fixes. It’s not going to be easy. You have to do things you don’t want to do at times. The dirty work. You suck it up. You don’t whine, cry and bitch about it. And you definitely don’t make excuses.
Take a cue from Khadijah Williams, when she graduated from high school she got a full scholarship to Harvard University. That alone is impressive, but what was even more impressive is the fact that Khadijah was able to get excellent grades even though she was homeless throughout high school. She lived with her mother and younger sister in shelters or on the streets. Khadijah said she felt anger because she was bullied. Other kids teased her about her clothes and her living situation. However, Khadijah could have used being homeless as an excuse. It’s difficult to study and get excellent grades when you don’t know where your next meal is coming from or where you will lay your head at night.
But Khadijah said being poor and homeless gave her the drive to succeed and the only way to get out of her situation was to excel in school and go to college. Khadijah was accepted to 20 universities and she chose Harvard.
Step 3) Be Consistent
Yes, consistent as in eat, sleep, drink, breath whatever goal you are working to achieve. It should be the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thing you think about before going to sleep.
Aristotle said – “We are what we repeatedly do.”
What are your habits? Do you watch a lot of TV? Are you on your cell phone all day texting, playing video games? Do you go out partying every weekend? Are you on social media for hours? Do you eat unhealthily? Or do you exercise? Are you reading books on empowerment, or about people who are successful? Are you taking classes or workshops or seminars to improve your craft, to get a promotion at work, to start your own business? Are you watching motivational videos on Youtube? Are you hanging around people who want greatness out of life?
No matter what you want to do with your life – doctor, lawyer, engineer, singer, dancer, scientist, artist, etc. You must study your craft and put in the work each and every day. It’s a daily grind that you must be willing to do even when you don’t feel like it.
Step 4) Goal Setting
Set a goal. Put a date to it, meaning when do you want to accomplish this goal? Then write down your plan of action for what you need to do to achieve your goal. For example, if it takes the average person, who is reasonably fit, six months to train for a marathon, (26.2 miles), and you know you have never exercised or did any type of running a day in your life, you may need a year to train. You find a marathon that’s happening a year from now, October 10, 2018, and you work from there. Writing daily in your journal will give you clarity as you keep a schedule of running drills and other fitness training you do, what you eat, how you’re feeling, what running gear and other equipment you may need.
You can visualize what it will look like a year from today when you cross the finish line and raise your hands in victory for completing a major milestone in your life. In fact, get a vision board and put photos of your head on someone else’s body who is crossing the finish line. Look at this board every day to give you encouragement and keep you on track. You should do this with any goal you have in your life.
Step 5) Be Around Greatness
Will Smith once said, “If you are the smartest person in the room you need to be around a new set of people/friends.” This also means not only surrounding yourself with people who are smarter than you, but people who are better than you in other ways – richer, more athletic, more ambitious, healthier in mind and spirit, those who take life’s challenges by the horns and see it as an opportunity as oppose to those who whine and complain about how horrible life is for them.
Think about it – If you hang around people, friends, family, all day who are lazy, eat crappy foods, drinks sodas, and alcohol, smoke cigarettes, use drugs, who watch lots of TV, who don’t value education or mental growth, who have no or little motivation in life, that’s going to become you. You become what you see every day, all day. You become what the five people you hang around with the must are. Distance yourself from as much negativity are possible. That might be difficult to do if these people are your family or spouse, but you can still distance yourself by spending time with people who are great achievers. You want to become the best version of yourself and the only way to do that is to be around others who striving for greatness daily.
You want to be around people who will challenge you to up your game. You cannot grow personally or professionally if you are always around people who are on your level, or God forbid, not even on your level. How can they help you be successful and great if they aren’t?
Step 6) Find A Mentor
One of the best things you can do to get on the right track and stay on the right track is to get a mentor. Someone in the field you want to go into who is successful. A mentor helps guide you, gives you advice, support you, someone to talk to you about your chosen field. A mentor also tells you when you’re screwing up. How do you find a mentor who will take you under their wing? You search the Internet. Those people in your community you admire. If you want to write for a newspaper, send an email to a reporter you respect and whose work, articles, you read all the time. Craft a nicely written letter to that reporter, telling him or her about yourself, why you want to be a journalist, why you would like to mentor, what you want to do with your future. Then email it. Three things can happen: 1) you get no response. 2) the reporter say no 3) the reporter says yes. If you get a No, try another reporter, then another, and another until someone says Yes.
Step 7) Ignore The Negative Talk
You will have the haters, the naysayers, the doubters, and they can be your own family and friends. Maybe even your teachers or counselors. You must have belief in yourself that you matter. That you are worthy of love, respect, success and greatness in your life. That the dreams and goals you have mean something. And not to let anyone else tell you any different. It doesn’t matter who they are. They’re not always right. You have to be willing to stand up for yourself when you know something is wrong. You have to speak out. You have to put your foot down. You have to push on even when others don’t believe in you, don’t support you.
However, you also have to ignore the negative self-talk. Those days when you are telling yourself you can’t do something. You’re not smart enough, don’t come from a good family, don’t have the best grades, not athletic, not talented, too fat, too ugly, too tall, etc.
Scientists and researchers did a study and they estimated that people have over 60,000 thoughts a day, and the majority of them are negative.
Motivational speaker Lisa Nichols said, “Your negative self-talk is producing the results in your life. Your life is a physical manifestation of the thoughts you’re thinking in your head.”
Positive self-talk. Look in the mirror each morning and tell yourself that you are worthy, which you are. You deserve the best things in life, which you do. You have what it takes to become whatever it is you are passionate about. Be mindful of that inner voice and how it talks to you. Do not focus on your weaknesses and imperfections. You may have big ears but you may also have beautiful eyes, wavy hair, a fit body. Focus only on the good, the positive.
Love yourself unconditionally. Even on days when life’s a total mess. Love and accept you for you. Also, it’s important to forgive yourself. You’ll make mistakes. But don’t dwell on them. You’re human. Learn from your mistakes and failure. This helps you know what not to do next time. Give yourself the sympathy you would give your best friend.
Step 8) You Are A Champion
You are not a victim regardless of your past or circumstances. You are a victor. You are a champion, but you must believe this to be true. When things are the toughest, when you have hit rock bottom, when you feel you can’t go any further, when you want to quit, when you feel like the walls are caving in all around you because obstacles, hardships, and challenges are kicking your ass, that’s when you have to dig your heels in deeper and push forward. That’s what champions are made of. They don’t concentrate on the bad, the negative, the fear, the uncertainty, the doubt, or the unknown, instead champions adopt a positive way of looking at life even when crap is raining down. Champions see life’s challenges as an opportunity to excel and thrive. It’s the energy of positive thinking that will bring the right people, other champions, in your life. These people will help you achieve your goals. The more positive energy you have the more champions you will have to support you. It’s also the energy of positive thinking like a champion that will help you remain at peace, calm, and reduce anxiety and stress. Not saying you aren’t supposed to acknowledge when things are bad, but it’s how you deal with situations that make you a champion.
Two people can have the same experience happen to them and yet have totally different outcomes. One mother’s child was killed by a drunk driver and she wallowed in hate and despair for years while she let grief kill her in a sense. Another mother’s child was killed by a drunk driver and she mourned for a while. But she also thought like a champion and became proactive.
Candace Lightner created the non-profit organization Mothers Against Drunk Drivers (MADD) in 1980 after her 13-year-old daughter, Cari, was killed by a drunk driver. This organization, which has an office in every state in the United States and one in each province of Canada, seeks to “stop drunk driving, support those affected by drunk driving, prevent underage drinking, and strive for stricter impaired driving policy, whether that impairment is caused by alcohol or any other drug.”
Dr. Eric Thomas said,” I want your dream to be so clear, when you wake up in the morning all you have to do is step into your dream.” Now that’s thinking like a champion.
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