Love Yourself First In Order To Achieve Happiness and Success

Sometimes to grow and to truly change your life, you have to make difficult choices. To thrive and become better physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually often times is painful. You get so comfortable being uncomfortable that you settle for less when you really are destined for greatness.

Whether you start a business or audition for The Voice anything major worth achieving means it will take time, discipline, focus, resilience, and determination on your part. If you quit, you never know what could have been.

When the unexpected nature of life comes at you full force – cancer, divorce, death of a loved one, job lost – it will test your faith, but in these difficult times, you will see what you are made of when everything changes dramatically.

But wait… before you can do any of that you must know this.

First and foremost, it’s important to love yourself. I mean to really love yourself so you don’t settle for less than what you deserve. Love yourself in order to love others. If you aren’t whole emotionally or mentally, which means you aren’t loving yourself properly, how in the world do you think you can love someone else?

You’ll just end up bringing all of your emotional baggage into a new relationship. And guess what? That relationship won’t survive.

Learn to take the time, even if that means being by yourself for a while, to heal, to transform, to take the steps necessary to do what is best for you. In doing this, you will come out stronger and then you can deal with what life throws at you.

You may be thinking that loving yourself first is selfish and narcissistic, but it’s not. You want to be the best you can possibly be personally and professionally.  When you love yourself, you are saying “I am worthy of love and respect.” When you love yourself you will treat your body right with wholesome food and exercise. When you love yourself you will listen to what your body needs – rest, relaxation. When you love yourself you will look out for your best interest.

Some people, especially women, will do so much for others that their health deteriorates. They put their dreams and goals on the backburner for others – family, mate, boss, kids. You are no good to anyone if you mind, body and spirit isn’t right. So you need to ask yourself, “How can I take better care of me?”

Love yourself unconditionally.

Even on days when life’s a total mess. Give yourself the sympathy you would give a friend. Have self-compassion for you even when you make mistakes or fail at something. If a friend screwed up at work to the point where he got fired you wouldn’t say to him – “Well, it’s your fault. Nobody told you to wait until the last minute to get that major report into your boss. Nobody told you to miss that important meaning with your client.” You would have compassion for your friend because you love him or her. You need to do the same for yourself because you should be your own best friend. Talk lovingly to self.

Also, make time to pamper you. Life can get so crazy and the world seems like it’s out of control and there’s nothing you can do about it. To help you keep your sanity during these times you need to care for yourself. Spend time, like 15 minutes a day, being quiet so you can meditate or pray or just be silent and do absolutely nothing. Turn off all electronic devices at least once a week for a few hours. Do other constructive and uplifting things, e.g. listen to music and sing at the top of your lungs. Throw a dance in there too. Go shopping and have lunch by yourself or with a group of friends. Go to a spa and get a deep tissue massage and facial. Go to a new class, like Zumba or Spin or Kettlebell or Yoga and sweat your worries away. Take a weekend hike through nature and listen to the animals, the water in the lake, and sleep under the stars.

Once you treat yourself with love, kindness, and respect you will be free to give more to others.

This is what happens when you love yourself unconditionally and with more compassion:

  • You feel more confident
  • You are motivated to achieve success
  • You become more resilient in the face of adversity and you learn from your mistakes
  • You are more emotionally balanced, which means you’ll have better relationships with others – spouse, parents, children, friends, boss, co-workers, even strangers.
  • Your stress level will decrease
  • Your physical, mental and spiritual health improves
  • You’ll be less likely to have anxiety or depression
  • You make better decisions personally and professionally


How are you loving yourself? Leave your comments below.

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